I’ve talked about my finances a few times on here, especially recently, but I wanted to revisit this today because it finally dawned on me what has just happened in my life.
For *years* I’ve been setting a personal goal of getting my fiscal house in order. Years. Literally since I’ve had a job and bills, I’ve always been messy about where my money goes. I don’t know why this was the case, or where my spend-happy-self came from, but it seems that monster, grown out of a desire to be generous to others, and to myself, with limited foresight as to the consequences of spending X dollars here, when I needed to put that currency elsewhere, has finally been caged and tamed.
I have achieved a birthday goal of mine, and right now, it’s just sinking in. I mean, really – I did this thing I set out to do. I wanted to reduce the anxiety that money was constantly bringing into my life, and I’ve done it. (A few pats on my own back).
Of course, I can’t just rest on this. Not for one second. I want to analyze how I got here, and what parts of that I can now apply to other goals that I keep setting and failing to meet.
It seems that, while I was paying attention to the small details, the smaller bits of responsibility along the way, the grand goal was playing out before me. Time, patience, persistence – as well as being willing to allow for setbacks and restarts (many restarts) along the way also seems to be key.
This same principle and focus can also be turned onto my other big goals – especially overall health and fitness. I know where I want to end up by the time I turn forty years old. I have an idea of what kinds of things I want to be able to do and have the strength and energy for at that juncture in my life. Getting there, from where I’m sitting now, seems like an impossibility. There are so many things to learn and discover along the way that, right now, it’s all a bit overwhelming. What do I eat, when do I eat it; how much is too much, too little; when should I sleep/rest, and when should I push myself to the limits? All of these things are questions I don’t have answers to right now, but while I do what feels right today and in this minute – watching my sugars and making sure that I get my ass to the gym at least three or four times a week – might just amount to something.
I do wish, though, that I could set up a long-range fitness calendar – much like I did for my budget – that will give me milestones that I should expect to achieve at various points. Like, I knew when my first credit card would be paid off because I knew where my budget would be at that point (and that milestone is coming in about a month, which is also pretty awesome). I don’t know, though, if I’ll be able to bench press a certain amount of weight, or be able to see a weight on the scale that is at a certain place, or be able to bring my BMI down out of the rafters by a certain moment in time. There isn’t the same sort of permanence and black-and-whiteness about fitness and health. It’s a continuum, which leaves a lot of grey space, which isn’t exactly the kind of exactness I want.
Maybe I need to meet with a trainer and get help wrapping my head around goals and plan-making to get there. I know there is a lot of ever-changing science around biochemistry and the effects of exercise on the body, so I could dive head-long into that world and find some real-life applicable things that I can do for myself. I’m not sure.
Still, right now, I am realizing that it is possible for lumpy, little ol’ me to set a goal and meet it. Even a big one. I never really thought this was possible.